How I Stopped Hating My Perimenopause Symptoms (and Found a Whole New Perspective)
Six years ago, I didn’t recognize myself.
I had gone from feeling strong, clear-headed, and athletic to someone I barely knew.
I was exhausted all the time. I couldn’t sleep. My digestion was off. I was snapping at people I loved. Worst of all, I was angry—at my body, my hormones, and myself. I didn’t understand what was happening, and every doctor I saw either dismissed me or told me it was “just stress” or “getting older.”
I hated that I was going through perimenopause.
Perimenopause Symptoms Nobody Warned Me About
I thought perimenopause meant a few hot flashes in your late 40s. I didn’t expect:
Sudden, irrational rage
Crushing fatigue
Mood swings that felt like emotional whiplash
Joint pain and weight gain that didn’t respond to anything
A deep, haunting sense of "Who even am I anymore?"
And yet every woman I confided in quietly admitted the same things. They were all struggling—but no one was talking about it publicly. There were no real answers, just symptom suppression and shrugged shoulders.
The Shift: What If My Symptoms Had a Message?
I reached a breaking point—and instead of pushing harder, I finally paused.
I started researching perimenopause through a new lens. Not just through hormones and lab results, but through ancient wisdom: Ayurveda, Traditional Chinese Medicine, astrology, numerology. I wanted to know what this life phase really meant.
That’s when I discovered something that changed everything.
Perimenopause as a Soul Transition: What Ancient Wisdom Says
In almost every ancient system, the ages from 35 to 50+ are seen as a sacred turning point in a woman’s life. Not a decline—but a spiritual initiation.
Astrology, for example, teaches that around this time we begin moving toward our North Node—our soul’s true path. It’s a karmic shift, where we’re no longer just relying on the gifts and patterns we were born with. We’re being asked to step into new traits, new energy, and a more aligned life.
And that transition? It’s not comfortable. It’s disorienting, raw, emotional. Just like birth.
Symptoms as Signals, Not Failures
When I reframed my symptoms as messages instead of malfunctions, I stopped fighting myself.
My rage was pointing me toward suppressed boundaries.
My fatigue was demanding deep restoration.
My anxiety was a clue that I was out of alignment with what I really wanted.
My body was saying: Let go of who you were. Make space for who you're becoming.
That realization was my turning point.
How My Symptoms Started to Ease (Without Medication)
As I began working with my body—not against it—I shifted:
My daily rituals to support my nervous system
My nutrition to align with TCM and Ayurveda principles for hormonal balance
My mindset to welcome this phase as a rite of passage, not a curse
My spiritual practices to reconnect with who I’m becoming
And guess what? My symptoms started to ease. My cycle stabilized. My energy returned. The rage softened. I started to feel like me again—only more rooted, more powerful.
If You’re Struggling With Perimenopause Symptoms...
Please hear this: you’re not broken. You’re not weak. And you’re definitely not alone.
You’re being invited into the next evolution of yourself. And when you stop seeing this as a medical emergency and start treating it as a spiritual initiation, everything changes.
Your perimenopause symptoms aren’t just something to suppress. They’re guides.
